This is a repost..of a repost..of a friend on facebook...i thougth it was really interesting seeing this coming from a guys view..but guys i just want you to know..that its hard here too. on our side...really its not easy.. but this was just interesting..take the time to read it please.
Thought this was worth a repost. Written by a friend from school. I feel ya, bro.-------------------------------------------------------------Teenage relationships are bizarre ordeals. They are seen by some as a game, by some as a plague, by some as a good time, by others life and death, by others as nature’s cruel fate on anyone that hits puberty, and by most a way to find that one with which you will spend the rest of your life, or at least you hope so. The way you see these things will most likely show what you want out of a relationship and how you view the opposite sex (for me it would be girls). Those that see it as a game have a set of mental “rules” that they set up in order to win the “prize” which also differs from person to person. Those that see it as a plague tend to avoid the issue altogether (sometimes I can see why). Those just looking for a good time generally aren’t looking for the long term commitment, and therefore they bail when the going gets tough or the relationship is “too serious.” Those that see it as life and death, well…lets just say they look to the other person to solve all their problems and when that person cant, drama happens (this group needs to grow up just a little). And for those that are looking for somebody to marry, they tends to get tunnel vision and only at the opposites as potential mates (and that’s just dumb).Now as a guy looking to get married someday, I put some mental effort into this, just so I could see how I was going to approach the matter. I guess my thoughts started with feelings, and let’s just say I didn’t not like them. It is a well known fact that society glorifies the beauty of women. Society gets it from men, which also glorify the beauty of women. We admire it so much that those of us that are rhetorically challenged can do nothing more than stutter and stammer ourselves into embarrassment. I look in the eyes of some girls, and my mind goes blank; I am lost and simply awestruck….then I realize she asked a question, and I look like a bumbling idiot. Sometimes it’s the smile that gets me. She laughs and I can’t think of anything other than thinking of something to do something to make her do it again. Eyes, smile, hair, skin, personality, abilities, mind, the list goes on – any number or mixture of things can make a guy’s world stop to the point that he can only hear and feel his heart beating. Then, I try to come up with something that will adequately express these feelings. Thinking at this point is futile, and sadly, my vocabulary reduces to one word, “hey.” And after the seemingly never-ending silence, my vocabulary decides to return with a rush of all terms that ever-so-adequately define the idiocy that has become me. At this point I might as well just hop away on the foot that’s not stuck in my mouth.What is a guy to do? Here I am making a fool of myself in front of the most beautiful person I’ve ever seen and I have no ideas on how to recover…lucky me…honestly, You would think I could handle the adrenaline rush that comes with all this. I mean I play sports, and I’ve made my share of game-winning shots without blinking or having a second thought, but I can’t come up with anything other than “hi” when talking to another human being? Which brings up another point. GamesWhat is the deal with these games that we play when we are attracted to someone? Like the “playing TOO hard to get game.” Here are the rules –1. You like me2. I like you3. You pretend I don’t exist4. I pursue the person who doesn’t think I existFor some reason I don’t like the way that game plays out. Why is it such a big secret that we find someone attractive? It’s nature. And, ladies, it’s a big deal for a guy when he asks you out, or even talks to you for the first time. Don’t ignore him, that’s just rude and inconsiderate. Give him a chance. And if he’s not the most conversational person, you’re probably just making him nervous.- New subject - I see a girl I like. I don’t wanna make a fool out of myself so I go to the drawing board and try to think of new ways to express the feeling of being beauty-struck. And as I think, I watch TV for ideas. I’ve got it…Poetry!...“roses are red”….no, too cliché.“When I look into your eyes, they remind me of blue skies….”…..ummmm no.“and then I saw her face, now I’m a believer…”…..good, but taken“ Well, I was sittin here thinkin‘Wow, you looked beautiful today’So I picked up a pen and just started dinkinAnd said to myself, I hope this turns out ok…I look into your eyes and wish you were mineBlank goes my mind, and a chill down my spine.I can’t hold the gaze and I stare at the ground.Not a word to be found that can duly proclaimThe beauty this girl has to her nameSo in my mouth lies my tongue like the lameAnd I think to myself…’man I sure hate this game.’”………well ive reached a new low and with that I move on to my next idea.Flowers….ill just give her flowers and leave a tag that says “anonymous.” Yeah, that’s it. It shows the girl that she is being pursued and that she is wanted exactly as she is and I hear they like flowers. It’s the perfect idea. But then I psych myself out and think that the guys are going to think I’m sappy and gay, and she won’t know it’s me, and if she did she’d probably say, no. ok, scratch that.Direct approach……I walk up and say “hi, my name is Ryan, and I think you are the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen. And, I was wondering if you would want to go out for dinner or a movie sometime?” girls say this is what they want, right? A guy to just tell her he likes her and ask her out…………….well, when I asked one of my female friends about this she said it would be too forward and that I need to have a conversation first…….i said, ok……but in my mind I thought, theres a problem. All I can think of is “hi”. And, when I do really good and throw a few more words in like “hi, hows life” or “hey, how’ve you been” or even “hey, how’re classes going”. If I muster up that much, I get the same “good. You?”; which I answer “Good”, thus ending the conversation and me no closer to the girl that I started. Next idea…Chivalrous approach…………..I’ll ride up on my white horse, jump down, kiss her and not say a word. We jump on the horse and ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after in the castle I am heir to. After we are married of course.I quit…….I know my thoughts have been scattered, but the point I’m trying to make is that girls give us feelings that we don’t get from anything else. Most of us don’t know quite what to do with ourselves. And, I know there are the guys out there that can just do this without thinking twice. I’m not one of those guys. I get all nervous and sweaty and all manner of messed up when I talk to an attractive girl. And, by writing this I helped myself sort some stuff out; I thought girls would like to see what goes on in a guys mind and I thought guys might be able to get some help from this.I’d like to know thoughts from guys and girls so leave the comments.